Give Space in a Relationship and Live Happier
Give Space in a Relationship and Live Happier
The best moments of our lives are the ones we’ve shared with someone special. Some of the happiest memories you may have usually involves a loved one. Life is always great if you have a special someone to share it with. But then again, too much togetherness can ruin a perfect relationship too. Keeping a relationship alive needs memories and special moments. As much as it may be a couple thing, you need individual memories and special moments too. To keep a relationship fresh and exciting, you need to experience things separately and then come together. This can certainly make you relish your togetherness more.
Everybody needs space, and you need to know how to give space in a relationship and accept space, even if only to take a breath. You can’t be locked in a kiss forever. You have to come up for air. Love needs space to grow.
Even saplings have to be planted with adequate space between them if they have to take a firm root and grow strong. And when they grow, their branches may intermingle to provide shade and beauty, but their roots still need space.
Here is how:
1. Accept the fact that there are certain things in life that you need to do separately as individuals. Instead of resenting and resisting this need, acknowledge it. Use it as a means to strengthen your bond by sharing with each other your experience in doing such activities.
2. Learn how to listen or interpret body language. If your partner becomes unusually unreceptive of your intimate advances, the person may be subconsciously communicating the need for personal space.
However, your partner’s unreceptiveness should only be temporary. After the satisfaction of the need for personal space, the person should be able to revert to the normal self. If the unreceptiveness lingers, there might be issues other than giving each other space that you need to work out together.
3. You may have to create a physical boundary, but it is also important that you communicate this need to your partner for better understanding. Some things are best spoken with words and not just with body language.
Tell your partner why giving each other space is important to your relationship. This will prevent the resistance or even anger and will promote understanding between you and your partner.
Few more idea’s:
Shopping and Playing
Pursue activities that you love doing without your partner. For the girls, shopping tops the list and for men spending time with their friends and drinking session.
Weekend Off
If trust is not an issue between you and your partner, it helps that you take a weekend off alone to be in the company of your friends or relatives. You can go to any places where you have never been since the time you decided to live together with your partner.
You will also have to give the same courtesy to your partner. The success of this method in giving space to each other is that both partners in the relationship must have absolute trust of each other. Otherwise, this strategy may not work well.
Substituting “No” with a “Yes”
Learn how not to say yes to your partner when what you really want is to say no. Giving space is not just about the physical distance, it is also about respecting the boundaries and limits.
Common to people in relationships is their desire to please their partners all the time. Hence, they always say “yes” to what their partners want even if what they really want is to say no.
In keeping the relationship healthy, partners do not have to agree all the time. Recognize the power in saying no, and learn how to use it. Know that you can fulfill your desire of pleasing your partner without having to say yes all the time.
Break the Routine
Routine is a relationship killer. Even outside of a relationship, routine carries the risk of a burnout, the reason it is necessary for people to take breaks. This is also the same in relationships. You need breakers to keep it healthy.
Breaking the routine does not mean to cool off with your partner or to break up and then get back together after some time. It means to introduce some healthy changes that will prevent your relationship from monotony or boredom.
Giving space is definitely an important ingredient in a healthy relationship. It can be your most effective solution when you feel like the relationship is getting to be dull and tiresome. Learning how to give space to each other can lead you to enjoy your long and lasting relationship.
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