You sit with a group of friends or colleagues, and the conversation moves quickly. Jokes, side comments and shifting topics overlap. By the time you think of what to say, the moment has already passed. You leave the table feeling drained, replaying what you could have said or wondering if you came across as distant. For many adults, this exhaustion is not about shyness, it is about social communication differences that often go unnoticed.

In counselling, I recall a conversation with Rachel (name changed) who explained her struggle. “I love my friends, but group settings make me feel like I am always behind,” she said. “By the time I find the words, the conversation has moved on. I go home exhausted and sometimes avoid group outings altogether, even though I want to be included.” Her words revealed how social communication differences can quietly shape relationships and identity.

These challenges are common for people who live with autism, ADHD or other neurodevelopmental differences. They may process language differently, need more time to organize thoughts or struggle to interpret non-verbal cues. On the outside, this may look like disinterest or quietness. Inside, however, it often feels like running to catch up with a train that never slows down.

The inner dialogue can sound like: Why can everyone else keep up so easily? Why do I always say the wrong thing? What if they think I am awkward? These thoughts add pressure to an already overwhelming experience, making group interactions even more draining.

There are ways to reduce this exhaustion. One helpful strategy is seeking smaller, structured conversations. Instead of large groups, connecting with one or two people at a time allows for more space to think, process and share. Rachel began inviting friends for coffee or walks instead of joining big gatherings and she found herself leaving those interactions feeling energized rather than drained.

Another approach is preparing conversation anchors. Thinking ahead about a few safe topics or questions can make it easier to join in without feeling rushed. This practice reduces the pressure to respond instantly and helps conversations feel more natural.

Social communication differences are not flaws, they are part of the diverse ways human brains connect. With understanding, strategies and supportive environments, it is possible to feel included and valued without the constant exhaustion of trying to keep up.

You do not have to carry this alone. Support is available, and taking the first step can change everything. Visit www.drkaranvirsingh.com and book your free 20-minute session today.